What I Seek

I am currently in the process of creating a comprehensive BDSM protocol and ritual training program focused on Total Power Exchange. This is a sort of magnum opus of my experiences in the BDSM lifestyle. The program is built into four parts: Mind, Body, Soul, Power. There will also be an accompanying workbook and online course.

As Oscar Wilde said, “Everything in the world is about sex except sex. Sex is about power.” Although I am drawn to ambitious and passionate women, I am not interested in sharing control. In general, I am not interested in Top/bottom or Dominant/submissive interactions – Simple body, or mind and body control. I devote myself to the wholistic Total Power Exchange of the Master/slave dynamic – Mind, Body, and Soul. Pushing someone past their limits of both pleasure and pain; forcing the massive release of dopamine, adrenaline, and endorphins. Watching as my gift of tormented pleasure sends a slave into subspace, the closest experience to nirvana one can experience. The actual elimination of the ‘self.’ Monks spend decades, sometimes their entire life, focusing on meditating themselves into these trance-like states, and yet here is a direct path to the Godhead. Combine these experiences with high protocol and ritual, and we have what I truly seek to offer. Rituals are tools that give us the freedom to take responsibility for the direction, meaning, and purpose of our lives. 

Sidenote: I dislike the terms Master and slave, but it is what the lifestyle has historically used and is best understood.

I am fascinated by the connection between Master and slave. So much so, that in the forthcoming year, I am changing my entire life in order to pursue it more faithfully.

Currently, however, I do require discretion, as my family and friends are completely unaware of sexual inclinations. Nor would it be advantageous for any of my coworkers to be aware of my interest and expertise on such topics. For now.

I seek someone who has a desire to submit, learn, and discover themselves. A paramour and muse.

What I Find Attractive

I find intelligence and cleanliness most attractive: a scholarly vocabulary, being well-read, discriminating tastes, beautiful lengthy hair, perfectly groomed nails, nice teeth.

Cleanliness is next to Godliness. There is a natural connection between the order of your environment and the state of your mind. That which is neat, well-proportioned, and symmetrical creates beauty and appeals to the eye. I like women who take care of themselves and treat their body as a temple. My temple.

I love beautiful, lengthy, kempt hair. The femininity is mesmerizing. Though all can be beautiful, I tend to prefer natural blondes. Possibly due to the rarity and exclusivity. Eyes and lips are also very important. How and on what a woman focuses her gaze. Attentiveness. That and the subtle muscle movements on her lips can express more about her desire than she would ever be able to explain in words.

Physically, I prefer petites blondes avec un cul parfait. I am a sexual sadist, and I am highly attracted to masochists. I prefer an active and attentive female who is looking for a companion to help guide and nurture them in the ways of submission. Someone who is playful, eager to please and looking to explore.

I also want to put “broken” here, too, but not in a condescending way. I do not claim to be able to “fix” everything, or indeed anything, however, I have developed a program that allows past transgressions to come to the surface. Through the use of BDSM as a form of therapy and a bit of spiritual alchemy, I have seen major mental transformations take place. Aren’t we all just a little broken?

Avant tout l’élégance. I prefer elegance – Above all else, and at all times. A barefoot, broken woman in a dirty nightgown can display elegance. Elegance has only to do with the soul. I also have a penchant for dark, luxury fashion. I believe it is only fair that I provide some examples of what I find visibly attractive. This will allow you to understand my aesthetic and possible expectations. 

About Me

I am a native Nashvillian, Eagle Scout, US Army veteran, and Freemason.

For the last 20 years, I worked in the Marketing and Publishing industries for national and international companies. I now own a real estate development firm focused on full scale, ground-up development. We design, build, invest in, and sell medium and large multi-use developments in the Southeastern United States.

In my youth and throughout my military career I competed in regional and national shooting competitions, as well as participated in numerous martial arts. For undergrad, I studied Business Leadership at Lipscomb University and Luxury Management at Università Bocconi. I have a graduate degree in Business from HEC Paris. 

I’ve travelled most every country in Europe, North and Central Africa, the Middle East, the Caribbean and South America. I am fluent in German, but I can read, write, and converse in most European and a few Mid-Eastern languages. I even learned Quenya and Sindarin in high school, but I promise I’m not that much of a nerd. One of my favorite places in the world is Matera, Italy.

I intend to be the fifth person in the world to complete the two highest accolades in the wine industry: Master Sommelier from the Court of Master Sommeliers, and Master of Wine from the Institute of Masters of Wine. Needless to say, I am very passionate about wine. I taste over 10K wines each year. I also have one of the largest whisky collections in the world.

I enjoy cooking and do so often. Learning more about the culinary arts is on my to do list, so perhaps one day I will attend culinary school, if only for fun. 

I collect rare alchemical, Masonic, and occult texts. I’ve been published and given talks on the subjects of the occult, LHP, Thelema, Armanism and Ariosophy, Thule-Gesellschaft, Hermeticism, Rosicrucianism, Freemasonry, and Cyrenaic Hedonism.

I have two dobermans: Snoop & Dre.

Additional Notes

I love women. I enjoy being a facilitator, provider, and protector. I believe polyamorous relationships can work successfully, but may not be for everyone. I have enjoyed more monogamy in the past, but I am open to anything.

For every woman I have loved, I will love them forever. That place in my soul is theirs. I still send flowers to my ex-girlfriends on their birthdays and even to their mothers as well. They, even a few being now married, consider me a very close friend, who is only a phone call away. That kind of trust is so rare, and it is what I cherish most.

In general, most women have had horrible past relationships which ended with a complete lack of trust of not just men, but having a close friend. I enjoy destroying that self-protection wall, by developing a trust that doesn’t and will not ever break. I tend to be more of a guide and confidant that can walk someone through their desires, and even past boundaries they had set.

Every human desires to be understood and to have an exchange of trust with someone without any judgement.

I tend to be succinct, choosing my words and intonation very carefully. I love women who speak their mind without attempting poise. It provides a glimpse of their soul, open and raw. 

Delaine Moore has said it best:

“In its truest form, a D/s relationship is all about the submissive: her wants, her needs, her fantasies. The dom’s job is to build a bond so strong with her that she feels safe enough, connected enough with him, to unleash her creativity and explore her innermost self. Through submission, she actually becomes empowered because she connects with her body, heart and mind in much deeper ways.”

I am always curious about others, and willing to play with people I trust. Despite hundreds of partners, I’ve only had penetrative sex without a condom with two people during periods of monogamy. I’ve never had any STI/D.

I serve as a Master through very high protocol and a touch of Gorean slavery. I enjoy control, ritual, and punishment, but generally more on the psychological level. One cannot grow and mature without pain. Pain allows us to push boundaries within ourselves. Without first mastering ourselves, we cannot claim to assist others.

I have an incredibly keen sense of smell. I have honed my senses for the identification of wines, but I find it useful in other ways. I enjoy high-end, luxurious, complex fragrances. Victoria Secret body spray that smells like stripper marinade is not appreciated. As one of my submissives, you will be provided a specific scent from a niche parfumerie, which we will choose together.

I am passionate about well-crafted cocktails, hand-rolled cigars, and learning languages. I am completely debt free and have a TS/SCI clearance from US DoD.

I enjoy being well dressed, which has turned into something in which I take great pride. It has become a big part of my Master style. I am easily recognized by how intimidatingly well dressed I am. I look exactly like my photos.

I believe that life should be a perpetual increase of everything that we love and enjoy.

Additional Details

I’ve been asked a number of times about the following:

  • Astro: 29 April – Taurus
  • Myers-Briggs: ENTJ
  • DISC: D (81), I (53), S (32), C(77)
  • StrengthsFinder: Command, Competition, Activator, Futuristic, Maximizer
  • Kolbe A Index: 8-6-2-3; Fact Finder, Follow Thru, Quick Start, Implementor
  • Enneagram: Type 8 – The Challenger (22) & Type 3 – The Achiever (22)
  • Inspiration: Aleister Crowley, Sir Francis Dashwood, Sir Richard F. Burton, Peter Acworth, Dr. Robert Rubel
  • Art: Caravaggio, Artemisia Gentileschi, Albrecht Durer, Hieronymus Bosch, Alphonse Mucha
  • Books: Gor Chronicles, Club Dumas, The Juliette Society, LotR
  • Music: The Weeknd, Halsey, Meg Myers, JMSN, Johnny Rain, Rendezvous at Two, PLAZA, Always Never, Sofia Karlberg, Within Temptation, Evanescence
  • TV: Hannibal, Game of Thrones
  • Food: Sushi, Thai, anything Asian or Latin American
  • Smoke: No cigarettes or marijuana. I do smoke cigars about once a month. I have no interest in anyone who smokes cigarettes.
  • Drink: I drink mostly wine, and occasionally whisk(e)y.
  • Fragrance: La Couche du Diable by Serge Lutens
  • My red wine glasses: Schott Zwiesel Tritan, 23.4 fl oz – $75/6
  • My white wine glasses: Schott Zwiesel Tritan, 13.8 fl oz – $83/6
  • Champagne should be enjoyed with white wine glasses. Flutes are worthless.
  • My dinner plates: Williams-Sonoma Open Kitchen Bistro Dinner Plates with Gold Rim – $32/4
  • My salad plates and bowls are of the same set. ^
  • My flatware: WMF JUWEL Collection:
  • My knives: Global SAI  – $1000+/set